Ongoing OUTRAGE

Please bear with me as I get these four relatively short stories off my chest. I’d love to hear your comments at the end of the blog.

Proper Parenting Skills—Providing Motivation

The first dozen years of my life, my family, parents and two younger brothers lived over the store. Actually it was a small film processing facility with a tiny camera store out front. Usually after school, I went downstairs to see my Father and Uncle then I hand developed black and white enlargements. Even back then, my parents felt it would give me a comforting sense of security to know that after graduating college I will be working in the family business. Sure, I guess compared to my friends that didn’t have a business to go into, I felt a inner sense of relief. But the other side of the coin was that safety net took away some of my desire to strive to do what I really wanted to do, and believe me there were many things on my list ahead of running a film processing plant. As far back as I could remember people always told me how “funny you are.” I also loved music and was a film buff. I’d often awake from dreams about entertaining people, but most of the time I was behind the scenes making music or movies. My fantasy life wasn’t strong enough for me to graduate college, reject the family business, then hit the streets trying to learn the music or movie business from the ground floor.

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I just read an article written about Warren Buffett by his son Peter telling a story about how Warren refused to help his children with money. When Peters sister asked for a loan of $15,000 to remodel her kitchen, Warren told her to go to the bank. When Peter was a young man, he asked his father for a loan to buy musical equipment, he got the same answer. Today he is an Emmy Award-winning musician and composer, and grateful for his fathers stance. “It sounds harsh but it is really very loving,” he says.
It’s a show of respect, saying, “You can do it. I believe in you, and if I give you a crutch, you are never going to learn how to walk.” Peter did go to the bank, got the loans and built his own successful business and worked his tail off to pay off the loans. “I would not have done that if somebody was writing me a check.”

Murder Incorporated, or Saving Lives

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The majority of Americans strongly believe “something” must be done to reduce the gun violence in our country. In addition, the majority of politicians also believe the same. But when it comes to taking on the NRA, the majority of politicians refuse to vote for any legislation that is not favored by the NRA. The National Rifle Association, which has approximately 5 million members, has approximately $250,000,000 in annual operating income. Most of that income is used to make a difference whether politicians get re-elected. Follow the money!!! It’s more important for most politicians to keep their seat than to care enough about run away gun violence in America. Even reasonable laws are over-ruled for one simple reason. The NRA’s chief Wayne La Perriere strongly believes in the old truism “if you give  them a finger, they will take a hand,” so he refuses to allow any progress in gun control whatsoever.

Here’s a new example of their narrow mindedness. Armatrix, a company is making a “smart gun” that has many safety and security add-on’s; they have fingerprint scans (so any user other than the owner can’t fire it), special security codes (PINS) and other technology also insure safety. These smart guns can save thousands of lives. The number of stolen guns, and guns found and used by children or their friends, would lower the murder rate dramatically The gun nuts see smart guns as “the first steps into disarming private citizens.” Last week a gun dealer in Maryland who was selling smart guns, stopped selling them because of several death threats. Isn’t it amazing how 5 million NRA members and a few greedy politicians can influence the safety and security of over 320 Million other Americans.

A One State Solution

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Decades have gone by, and many good intentioned intermediaries have tried to negotiate a mid-east peace between Israel and the Palestinians, but we are back again at the beginning. The way I see it, even though I think a workable two state solution would be beneficial for all parties, it was and still is impossible to achieve for one specific reason. Hamas will not accept Israel’s right to exist, and their stated goal is to drive all the Israelis into the sea. If they will not even accept their right to exist, how can anybody in their right mind insist Israel negotiates with them. So no matter how much pressure Israel gets from nations around the world, including the U.S., claiming Israel will become an “apartheid state” without a negotiated two state solution, it must hold firm. Although Israel is fed up with the Arab intransigence, it cannot annex the West Bank and absorb the Palestinians without a right to vote and other lost freedoms they have now. It would cause major terrorism activity in the region. So unless and until Hamas accepts Israel’s right to exist, they will be living with a “permanent occupation.” Israel will never again be forced to “trust your neighbor,”…been there, done that.

Iraq, It’s Three Years Later. Let’s look at the Video Tape.

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First let’s take a look at the costs in lives, missing limbs, brain trauma and Dollars. So far we have spend over $2.2 Trillion on the Iraq war. We also owe $490 Billion to war veteran’s and adding to the ongoing costs including future interest, comes up to about 6 Trillion Dollars total over the years. Now in terms of lost lives; 4,487 Americans died in Iraq, 32,226 wounded plus another approximately 600,000 plus suffering from; PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder),Traumatic Brain Injuries, Depression, severe hearing loss, diseases, and other long term health problems. We also killed approximately 550,000 innocent Iraqis, who were merely defending their country.

Now why did we invade Iraq? Bush, Cheney, Rumsfeld and the neo-cons came up with a phony story (that eventually was proven wrong), claiming Saddam Hussein worked with Al-Qaida to bomb us on 9/11, and Iraq had a stockpile of “Weapons of Mass Destruction” that will be used against us and our allies. Plus, we also later discovered that Wolfowitz and Cheney pushed Bush for a faster start to the war claiming that we would use Iraq’s oil to pay for it. They all claimed, (including John McCain), that the war will be over in a matter of days and we’ll have control of a stock pile of oil comparable to Saudi Arabia’s. Senator Obama voted against the war, Hillary voted for it.

Let’s do a review of the record of George “W” Bush ( just say his name before each of the following actions)….I George W Bush

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1)   presided over the biggest energy crisis in history, refusing intervention when corruption involving the oil industry was revealed.

2)   presided over the highest gasoline prices in U.S. history.

3)  changed the U.S. policy to allow convicted criminals to be awarded government contracts.

4)   appointed more convicted criminals to my administration than any other President in U.S. history.

5)   created the Ministry of Homeland Security, the largest bureaucracy in the history of the U.S. Government.

6)   broke more international treaties than any other President.

7)  was the first president in U.S. history to have the united nations remove the U.S. from the World Court of Law.

8)   had the U.N. remove us from the Human Rights Commission.

9)   refused to allow inspectors access to U.S. “prisoner of war” detainees and thereby refused to abide by the Geneva Convention.

10)  was the first President in history to refuse U.N. election inspectors during the 2002 U.S. election.

11)   set the record for the fewest number of press conferences of any President since the advent of TV.

12)   set a record for most vacation days in any one-year period.

13)   after taking off the full month of August, presided over the worst security failure in our nations history.

14)   garnered unprecedented sympathy for the U.S. after the World trade center attacks, less than one year later made the U.S. the most disliked country in the world, possibly the largest failure of diplomacy in world history.

15)   set the all-time record for most people worldwide to simultaneously protest me in public venues (15 million), shattering the record for protests against any person in the history of mankind.

16)  was the first President in history to order an unprovoked, pre-emptive attack and the military occupation of a sovereign nation.

17)   did so against the will of the U.N., the majority of U.S. citizens, and the world community.

18)   cut health care benefits for war veterans and their families-in-wartime.

19)   was the only President in History to have a majority of Europeans (71%) view my Presidency as the biggest threat to word peace and security.

20)   failed to fulfill my pledge to bring Osama Bin Laden to justice and was quoted on TV saying, “Oh, I don’t think about him much”

Fox never said one negative word about “W” for 8 years

Oh, I left out he also stopped progress for 8 years not allowing stem-cell research to continue. He also read and ignored ignored intelligence warnings that Iraqi nationals were learning how to fly big jet planes and not learning how to land them. That alone should at least provoke some curiosity in anyone of intelligence or caring.

I believe it is always important to review history. We MUST remember so we can try to never made a mistake like “W” again.

Thanks,

Marty

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10 Types of Men to Avoid

What inspires me to write a blog? First, I welcome those wonderful middle of the night epiphanies. I’ve learned to keep a pad and pen on my night table and to switch on the light, so hopefully what I attempt to write down will be legible in the a.m. Notice I said, “switch on the light,” because I’ve learned through trial and error that scribbling some ideas half groggily at 3 a.m. in the dark turns into Farci, Yiddish or Mandarin in the early light of day. I also read a lot, and if I find something that I think would appeal to you, I use that concept and run with it. Sometimes it is so well written that I shamelessly “borrow” more than I should (In a state of total envy) and give them the credit they deserve for their writing skills. This Blog was “influenced” by Norine Dworkin-McDaniel who is a Special Contributor to Lifescript, an excellent newsletter for women. Her article was titled “7 Types of Men to Avoid.” I added; three more types, changed most of her wording, and added some of my special brand of humor. I think it will be very informative and quite helpful for you to realize these types of guys are out there, all of them eventually ending up breaking your heart.

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1) Mr. Jealous.  It may take you a while to discover, but he probably has learned by now to cover it up well. He has little or no self-confidence. His insecurities will eventually drive you crazy; he needs you to comfort and praise him constantly, including trying to be positive and complement him for the “good parts” of his messing up. He just can’t handle the truth because it’s too painful. Living a long life with this type will cause YOU real pain.

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2) Mr. No-Moneybags.  These guys not only exude lots of charm but they also seems to be so financially comfortable. They, unfortunately have Rolls Royce tastes and Kia budgets. Their special skills lay in their ability to find women with money. He does special research using his pre-war windup computer to locate grieving widows (by reading the Obituaries daily), locating women with trust funds who were never married, and women older than he, who initially are only looking for a classy man to escort them to charity balls and the like. He eventually manages to get into their hearts and wallets.

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3)  Mr. Marry-Go-Round.  This type has little or no respect for the institution of marriage. For him it is only a piece of paper tied into a fault free, and payment free pre-nuptial agreement. Before marrying, he tells his bride-to-be that in order to protect his assets, his lawyers insist on him having a pre-nup that says he doesn’t have to pay out one cent until you reach, (pick a number) 2?, 3?, or even 5? years of marriage. You can bet your bottom dollar that he has already filed to break up the marriage well before the deadline date.  He probably has been out looking to trade you in for a newer model.

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4) Mr. Peter Pan Syndrome.  Although his birth certificate claims he is in his 30’s or 40’s his behavior is 100% Frat boy. His favorite activity is sitting on the sofa surrounded by beer, appetizers, chips and his best buddies playing video games,  jumping and screaming as if they have just won the lottery. They are on a first name basis with the “best” bartenders in town, and always ready to go on a fishing trip (usually to Las Vegas, the only fish in Vegas are at the tables.) You learn to love his spontaneity and sense of adventure by para-sailing over the beach in Cancun or Acapulco, but when you really need him, it’s like asking a 10 year old for help and emotional support. Yes, your Peter Pan will eventually grow up into a perennial bachelor, who still cares more for the latest video game rather than having a serious relationship with you.

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5)  Mr. Heavy Baggage.  Hardly anybody comes into a potential relationship totally unencumbered. There usually are; children, grandchildren, ex-spouses, alimony payments, ex’s children and their families. Add in the debts, lawsuits, business problems, crazies lurking around the corner or online, brothers, sisters, weird friends, health problems, pets and prior in-force contracts, just to name a few. Do you really need any more? Here’s how to root them out into the open. Ask to meet “the family” as soon as you two talk about commitment or have had the “together forever” pledge. When you do meet them, try to find an unhappy member of the group and talk to them privately. Ask a few probing questions. Are you unhappy? Why? What’s going on in the family? Be prepared to jump back to avoid the angry words spewing from their mouth. Time to hit the road and leave the guy with the baggage behind.

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6) Mr. Mama’s Boy.  He is so nice. It’s rare nowadays that you can call a person nice. It’s the nicest four letter word we can use in describing another. He is also kind and affectionate, well trained in the kitchen and laundry. Unfortunately he is hung up on another woman-his mother. I’m sure it’s not the fantasy threesome you had envisioned. Mom is super competent. She manages his checkbook, his investment portfolio, real estate (where he is to live), politics (who he will vote for), and other means of controlling his every decision. If you push him to choose sides, guess who loses….and don’t let the door slam you in the tush as you are leaving, mostly for your sanity.

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7) Mr. Permanent Bachelor  You find it impossible to believe that the guy you just dated for the first time is still available. Why hasn’t someone grabbed him up until now? He is so handsome, so smart, so funny, so financially stable in his own successful business, such a perfect gentleman, and his kisses melt you like ice cream outdoors in summer. After a few more dates while you are daydreaming about your white picket fence future, he then apparently reads your mind and disappears, out of your life forever. He left so quickly that when you look down, you can see his skid marks on the tile floor. If he was ever asked if he has found Mrs. Right yet, he would reply, “No, not yet, but I’m still looking.” With a perennial bachelor, there is no Mrs.right and probably never will be. But women’s nature rears up and says, “I’ll be the one.” but if no one has been Mrs.Right, you probably won’t be either.

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8) Mr. Egomaniac. I guess because I hate braggarts so much, I think I have a Bill O’Reilly/Donald Trump personality detector and all egomaniacs set of an internal alarm. Not everybody has one. Too bad, these guys will Superego you to distraction. Usually they are brilliant, accomplished and have an unflagging braggadocios belief in their own superhuman infallibility. He usually doesn’t like competition. Although he claims to seek out an equal, if you outshine him he will retaliate to knock you down while rebuilding himself up again. Some ego driven men think nothing of embarrassing loved ones in public to re-assert themselves, especially in their own minds. Many women are smitten with the strong, silent, tough guy type; Clint Eastwood in his prime and Big John Wayne could certainly make your day. Nowadays, I even heard some women talk lovingly about Chris Christie because, “He’s tough and he would fight for me.”  Most people with his demeanor are just loudmouth bullies, plain and simple. Hit the road before this macho bully ruins your life.

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9) Mr. Not Good In Bed.  Woman talks her intimate partner into going to a sex doctor. The Doctor addresses them and says, “I understand you have a sex problem.” the guy says, “I don’t have a problem, she has the problem, she comes too late.” Sexually experienced women know the difference if the guy is not a good lover. He doesn’t kiss well (and you don’t want me to go into what bad kissers do or don’t do) You’re welcome. But there is more to being good in bed or being a good lover. Touching, tenderness, erotic contact with words and physical contact well before the actual act, is a necessary build up for a woman. She wants to feel desired, her body is a beautiful compilation of skin and nerve endings that should be played as if you were playing a Stradivarius violin. It takes time. Her lover must use his lips, tongue, fingers and all over gentle tactile massage to get a woman ready for what should last hours, not one minute. He wants to ejaculate so he can go to the refrigerator then turn on the TV and watch the game, or what’s even worse, watch porn. Having sex and making love are two different things that many men no nothing about. Good luck trying to train them. Give it a shot before you drop him, your efforts just may be rewarded.

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10) Mr. Control Freak. I’m a sucker for nature shows especially where they depict animals in deadly combat for survival. Last week I saw a battle between a large alligator and a huge Boa constrictor The Boa eventually squeezed the life out of the gator, eventually unhinged it’s jaws and swallowed it whole. I know it’s a stretch, but dating a Control Freak is like gradually having the breath being squeezed out of YOUR body. It starts innocently enough, but by the sheer strength of his will, you will be eating at the restaurants he wants, watching the movies he picks, and hanging out with only his friends. If he is the typical Control Freak, he will be dictating everything, from what you are wearing, to how you spend your free time. His obvious concern and attention is surely flattering, so you start to believe it’s all about you, but one day you wake up and ask, Where did I go? Who am I? The best way to avoid being in his grasp is to be aware of his behavior early on. If he seems too involved in ALL your activities and tells you what to do, who to see and where to go and with whom, a bell should go off in your brain. He always expects you to agree with him and if you dare not to, he will berate you until you see it his way. Don’t allow it to continue because that Boa Constrictor is trying to remove all your ability to object and to defer to him, totally micromanaging you, by then it’s too late. In summary, as soon as you realize he is a control freak…. Run-don’t walk-away.

Have you been a victim in the past? Do any of these 10 types of the wrong men remind you of a current relationship? Get out before you potentially waste the best years of your life (including your childbearing ones), with a guy who will only break your heart.

Please comment below.

Thanks,

Marty

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Women are Getting Screwed, So Where’s the OUTRAGE? Part II

Dr. Peggy Drexler; Author, research psychologist and gender scholar, recently published an article in The Huffington Post which originally appeared on Forbes.com titled.
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Equal Pay for Equal Work a No-Brainer, Right?
Last Wednesday Senate Republicans blocked, for the 3rd time, The Paycheck Fairness Act, a bill proposing to close the pay gap between men and women. Democrats argue that wage disparities persist, pulling out the oft-cited figure that women, on average, earn 77 percent to a mans dollar. Paycheck Fairness, they say, would make it impossible for employers to tie compensation to work quality, productivity and experience. Lawsuits would increase. And they even point out that women in the White House only get 88 cents to male counterparts, I don’t know why either, I’ve checked everything written about it, but no one has reported why there “might be” a pay disparity in the White House, as yet. (Please let me know if you find out if it’s true, or why it is?)
One of the main reasons WHY more and more women are staying home and not even looking for work any longer is that they can’t find decent work, especially jobs that pay enough to cover the costs for the necessary childcare.
Some Republicans concede (although privately and off the record), that they believe in Paycheck Fairness. So what’s the problem you might ask? The answer is politics. Unfortunately, nothing will happen until Democrats and Republicans agree to make equal pay a fairness issue rather than a political one. In the meantime it’s women that suffer.
One of my favorite expressions is “Follow the Money.” It’s a simple statement but incredibly broad based. Politicians want to be re-elected, so they never bite the hand that feeds that effort. The top 2% are the Billionaires and Multi-Millionaires who own most of corporate America and they fund, (some say own), the politicians who do their bidding. Paying women what they deserve will cost their businesses lots of money. So, even though I feel most of the elected officials know its wrong to discriminate, they vote THEIR own re-election pocketbook and continue to deny women their equal rights. It’s really an easy problem to fix. THROW THE BUMS OUT, but how do we do it? Here are my suggestions how to get it done.
First, let’s list the facts, or very strong assumptions:
1) The recent Supreme court decision says that anybody, including the wealthiest people, can spend an unlimited amount of money for political contributions. The 5 ultra conservative justices called it utilizing FREE speech, (unfortunately, it also includes money coming in from Billionaire business owners from around the World, some with anti-American intentions, who spend enormous amounts of money for advertising to overwhelm the opposition and electorate with their lies and scare tactics.)
2) They will stuff the pockets of the elected officials to buy their votes. I know it’s illegal, but let’s not be naïve, we all know it happens. Since Harry Truman, almost every President, Senator, and long term House of Representative member has retired from office much wealthier than when they first got elected.
3) By bombarding the voters with well produced ads for their candidates, many voters will either say “they couldn’t legally say what they advertised if it wasn’t true, or O.K. I give up, I’ll just go along to get along, at least I can be on the winning side.”
4) “Stop driving me crazy with all these ads. I’m fed up with politics. I’m not even going to bother to vote. One vote doesn’t matter. I never saw anybody lose by just one vote.”
So the answers to overcome them are:
1) Since woman are the majority, every female has to plan to vote in order to accomplish change.
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2) In the tradition of honest reporting, I must mention the fairly recent situation in Egypt. After the overthrow of long time dictator Musharraf, the 80 million Egyptians felt the overwhelming fresh air of freedom and proceeded with a free, unfettered, legitimate, election. Several groups were vying for control, including the Muslim Brotherhood, which common knowledge dictated that since they only had 18% of the electorate, they were no threat to win. Be careful what you wish for! It seems that a person, or a group of journalists miscalculated the strength of the Brotherhood (ah, the dreaded transposing of numbers) and so, to the dismay of most of the World, the Muslims won control. The new government quickly reverted to the Koran rather than the Egyptian Constitution, back to jihad rather than peace with the neighbors, back to Sharia law and it’s frequent public beheadings for little or no reason, other than a perceived blasphemous act. Almost a year to the date of their democratically decided voting victory, the powerful military leaders threw the Brotherhood out. Now multiple factions are fighting with each other trying to figure how democracy works for their next election (especially for their group.)
3) So if we stick together and throw the bums out who refuse to give us our equal rights, we certainly don’t want to wake up with the American version of the Muslim Brotherhood in charge. Obviously I’m just being facetious, but you get the idea. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR.
4) It has to be harder to accomplish by voting the bums out, without first finding and vetting their hopefully improved upon replacements.
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5) Here is a good idea to put pressure on the Billionaire manipulators who have and will continue to spend even more of their enormous wealth to buy their candidates and the election. Squeeze them. Seriously, squeeze them HARD! Boycott the Bastards!! For example, the Koch Brothers, who possibly will use 1 Billion of their 80 plus Billion nest egg in the next two national elections, control over 60 consumer goods companies. Print a wallet sized list of their brands like Vanity fair and Brawny, keep it handy when shopping, and refuse to buy their products. Spread the word to everyone you know to never to buy their stuff again. They also have lots of major coal, oil and gas investments. Again, put them on your list and boycott them too. Squeeze the bums out of politics. Make them feel it in the pocketbook.
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And while you are at it, go after the biggest one of all. Sheldon Adelson, who owns the huge Venetian Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas, plus many others in Macao (southeast Asia), would hate it if you boycotted and picketed the Venetian in Vegas. Imagine Shelly looking out from an enormous Penthouse window adorned with his flaming orange hair and zooming around in his souped up scooter, watching protestors and picketers blocking his entrances. Removing his hundreds of millions out of elections would bring us back to having a much fairer vote. Nobody really cares as much as Adelson to stop Online Gambling, Shelly’s pet peeve, (and major competition), so much so that future presidential candidates recently ran to Vegas (imagine Chris Christie in a track outfit running a race, WOOF!), to kiss Adelsons ring and get his endorsement and financial backing. They are prostrating themselves before the king maker promising him in unison to destroy the online gambling industry in order to help the bottom line of his beloved casino, the Venetian, enjoying a better return on his political investment. How obvious is all of this comical crap, yet it is a disturbingly blatant violation of our freedom.  But women’s inequality  IS a DEADLY serious matter. We cannot allow a few billionaires to destroy our freedoms and our country.
For all of us that believe in freedom and free elections we must get out there and talk it up, form groups, have meetings and make sure everyone who can vote, does so in November. We need to take back Congress and take back America from the big money interests. WE have control of the votes, let’s use them. It’s only for one day, (unless you can register and vote earlier).You lose your right to complain later if you don’t vote and get others to also do so. It’s not only congressional issues and Washington representatives we are dealing with. It’s much more. In order to replace the ultra-conservative votes on the unfair Supreme Court, we must be diligent and vote in each and every election, including local elections. There is nothing like having a majority to win. Ladies you’ve got it, now use it well. This was a long Blog, but I felt it was needed to educate those of you that didn’t realize what women don’t yet have, and need to be protected with Constitutional Guarantees. We need all three branches of government to get it done, and overcome the many other OUTRAGES we are living with.
Justice must be for ALL. Let me know your thoughts and feelings. I am looking forward to an open forum where we share points of view and suggestions to achieve the fairness goals.
Thank you,
Marty
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Women are Getting Screwed

They (whomever they are), have told me that you NEED a sexy title to attract attention. My alternative title was “The Underwear Shows it All.” Although both titles appear to be pandering to prurient interests, they actually have lots of substance concerning fairness, equality, and the well deserved feeling of OUTRAGE. Unfortunately, it’s Outrage light.

Men and women are wired differently. A recent pioneering study has concluded that some of the stereotypical dissimilarities in female and male behavior can be explained after all. By wiring brains of about 1000 individuals, approximately the same amount of each gender, certain differences became apparent after adolescence. They found out that the way the brain is hardwired could play an important role in understanding why men are generally better at spatial tasks involving muscle control while women are better at verbal tasks involving memory and intuition. Intuition is really thinking without actually thinking. It’s what many call “gut” feelings. Men tend to out perform women in certain motor skills, like reading maps, while women tend to do better in memory tests, such as remembering faces and words, plus social cognition tests which measure empathy, emotion, reason and intelligence. It’s not totally black and white, because the researchers claim every individual could have part of both men and women skills in them and to varying degrees.

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The title of this Blog, “Women are Getting Screwed.” is primarily financially. For no apparent reason, other that manufacturers and retailers have been getting away with it for a longtime, women pay more than men for similar products and services. She is looking forward to the long intimate weekend with her guy, so she goes to her favorite lingerie store and buys a sexy bra with matching panties for about $100. On the other side, he also could use new undies, so he goes to Wal-Mart and gets a 3 pack of tidy whities for $19.95 that will last him a decade. This is not to imply that these are the same products, but you get the idea about costs.

Q. Why does it cost more ( $6.50 vs. $2.00) to launder a woman’s shirt rather than a mans? She claims it is her husband’s cotton shirt, but to no avail.

A. Because it’s a woman’s. The dry cleaners went to Dry Cleaners University where they are taught to say, “Sorry Ma’am, your shirt is too small to fit on our pressing machines, and they need hand-care and that “extra labor ” will make us  have to dry-clean your BLOUSE.

Here’s what you can do to overcome this blatant discrimination.  Not a damn thing, because it’s perfectly legal!! Although civil rights laws prohibit housing and job discrimination on the basis of race, gender, or sexual orientation, there is no federal law banning discrimination in the sale of goods and services. Some states have tried to correct it but they are mostly vague  and full of loopholes, just like allowing dry-cleaners to charge what they do because they decide “extra labor ” is required for blouses.

Being a woman in America has become an increasingly expensive proposition. It’s not only dry cleaning, deodorants, disposable razors and haircuts where women get taken: They pay more for home mortgages, health insurance, cars and car repairs.

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What’s even more astounding to me is how little outrage the issue seems to summon in women. There is no movement here to change the law, no marches in Washington, or sits-in at Congress. No social media campaigns (Facebook, You Tube, Twitter, etc., where are you?) Without any MAJOR movement no change will ever come from lawmakers. Any change might come from one small lawsuit at a time, or should I say one dry-cleaning bill at a time.

The list of import tariffs and the incredible array of differing amounts for men and women at best can be called a mish-mosh.  Our Constitution forbids Uncle Sam from sticking his hands down your jeans to find out whether you’re a man or a woman. Most tariffs have been in place for many decades without rhyme or reason other than they have a long history which was influenced by political (financial) pressure decades ago.

I’ve discussed this issue with several very competent women who could be leaders of an anti-discrimination movement. Surprisingly, they have looked at their own lives, the several glass ceilings they personally have broken and all said the same disturbing thing to me, “We have come so far. ”

True, but much more progress is needed. You have the majority voting numbers behind you, and only YOU can make things happen, but you have to care enough to overcome the OUTRAGE. Total change and full justice is in your hands.

Thanks for reading my passionate pleas and my obvious frustration with the lack of effort to overcome a major injustice. I love to write and I love to write for you.

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Thank you,

Marty

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